No I will not accept your LinkedIn dating request!

I love LinkedIn.  I think it is a great tool for continuing a professional relationship and it is now the online business card.  However, people are starting to use it like Facebook and for dating purposes.  I fear its purpose will become redundant.

My biggest bug bear about LinkedIn are the recruiters who look at my profile and then add me.  No message, just the standard LinkedIn "you are someone I trust".  Then I get a message saying, 'I saw you have career opportunities ticked and I wanted to discuss a role I want to offer you', or 'I have a role for you, let's chat'.  Well no, I don't have it checked because I'm not looking for opportunities and the role you have to offer me is an interview with five other candidates. 

A message to the young - this is not head hunting and is by no means complimentary.  Despite being Gen Y, I actually remember what recruitment was like before LinkedIn and what head hunting involved. 

To the men adding me on LinkedIn and then asking me for a wine after work, don't.  If I wanted to do online dating, I would use Tinder.

To the motivational speakers putting up quotes supposedly from Einstein, Emerson and Twain, don't. Use the message from those quotes and create your own message.  Build your personal brand.  

LinkedIn is such a resourceful tool which is under-utilised for it's required purpose.  When I first joined LinkedIn, I received referrals and recommendations for work.  One barrister had the brilliant practice of when he received a direct brief to email 3-5 lawyers who practiced in the necessary area and ask them to get back to him if they would like the work referred to them. 

Young professionals can use LinkedIn to build their practice and build your online profile.  You want that raise or promotion?  Well, set yourself apart from your colleague in the office next to you and use social media for that purpose!  An ability to build a practice at a young stage will be your most useful negotiating tool!

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My tips, spend 20 minutes this week on updating your LinkedIn profile by:

- updating your photograph (no selfies, filtered photos or wedding pictures)

- updating your specialities and biography

- sending a message to a connection and make sure you continue the relationship

- reviewing the Groups you follow and see if you need a clean up

- searching for companies or influencers to follow (this helps you keep up on industry news and developments 

- having a look through the "people you may know" function to see if you can form new relationships. 

LinkedIn, if used correctly, is such a useful tool.  Have a reminder to review your overall profile every few months and make sure you keep in contact with your connections!

When your quote becomes an InstaInspo!

I have mentioned (a lot) on my Twitter how I am a member of LBD Group.  The fabulous Janine Garner and everyone she has introduced me to have really changed my life.  I first met Janine in December 2013, and have not turned back since!

This month's GLOSS features my FOMO article and I was just that little bit excited to see that one of my quotes had been turned into a meme for #instainspo.

Check out the July issue of GLOSS for more inspiring stories.

2014 - My year in review

I cannot believe that 2014 is almost at an end.  I write this post - my year in review - with trepidation.  To say 2014 was a roller-coaster would be an understatement.  I had one of the best years professionally, but encountered a few personal lows.  

I spent weeks freaking out about turning 30, but have since found it wasn't that bad (separate blog to follow!).  I had a few significant changes in my friendship group and have made some amazing new friends who I am so glad to have in my life.  A health scare made me realise there is more to life than just dancing all night long on a Saturday night and while I am fit, there needs to be a balance.

Overall, I would say that 2014 was an exciting, yet different year.  I can only hope to build on everything for a bigger and better 2015!

Here is my year in review (some of these questions have been taken from a previous Huffington Post blog).

What was the best thing that happened to me this year?

A few things, the most significant would be taking on my new job at a firm I really wanted to be at, in an area of law that I am passionate about.  A few other significant moments were:

• Participating in the Australian Institute of Management's International Women's Day Debate and all of the coverage that followed.
• Being named in the Who's Who of Australian Women 2015 List.
• Speaking at the Australian Women Lawyers Conference in Adelaide.
• Being voted in as Secretary of Women Lawyers Association of Queensland.
• Having the most supportive group of friends, who I was able to call at any time of the day or night to workshop ideas, or just have a good old fashioned cry and girlie heart to heart.
• Helping my friends expand into the social networking scene with blogs, LinkedIn profiles and Twitter accounts.

What did I do this year that I am really proud of?

Without a doubt, it would be the Debate.  This was a turning point in my year and the response has truly been overwhelming.  I found out a day or two before the Debate that there was something wrong with my liver (a suspected tumour) and I had just been referred to a specialist as it was suspected malignant.  The Debate was a perfect distraction from my health problems and also from  my breakup with my boyfriend that had happened over the same time.  I confided in my team members (Sara and Sharon) about my health problems and they were so supportive.

I received a text on the morning of the Debate that simply said "own the debate today".  It was great motivation and I could not have asked for a better day.  I got to stand alongside five other inspiring women as we were making our mark on such an important day for women around the world.  I am well and truly proud of the difference we were able to make. 

Who do I need to thank and acknowledge for having been there for me?

There is always a risk in answering a question of this nature that you will leave someone out.  Without a doubt the top two people would be one of my BFF's Jessica Turner and my awesome guy mate Blewie.  Jess was there for all of the moral support during my breakup, and Blewie was just amazing with all of my health problems and giving me a guy's perspective for everything (interpret tough love). 

Who else?  Dr Lois Frankel - I am so glad to have her as a mentor, her constant support and "checking in", really motivated me.  One of my other good girl friends Molly, and Cohen my guy BFF who I love to hate, have both played an important part, along with Bec, Liz, Laura, Nicole and Jelena, all girlfriends which I built a new, or strengthened a current, friendship with.  My boys were always there for me too, somehow all of them called me just when I needed it (still love the Dance Track Friday videos Mannion).

I am SO grateful for having such a great group of friends who all have unique qualities that make them the people that I love.

What is a lesson I learned?

People need to create their own life and happiness.  You cannot run your life to expectations of others as this will only create disappointment for you later in life. 

Another lesson I learned is that sometimes friends just grow apart.  I have a few draft blogs on this topic, which I just have not been able to finalise.  Dr Peggy Drexler has written extensively on the issue and I agree with a lot of her sentiments.  It is not that you no longer love and care for a friend, it is just that you grow apart, form different friendships, have different values and see the world through different light.  I still love and care for the friends that I grew apart from, I am grateful there was no "bust up" which resulted in hatred, but sometimes, even after 15 years, a friendship can run its course.  I know I went through a few life changes the past few years which contributed to me changing my whole outlook on life.  All I can do is wish those people all the best as they take on the world and achieve their goals.  Peas and Carrots.

Who did I really help?

This is hard to answer without asking others.  However, one person I know I did make a difference with is the young high school girl, CW, I mentioned in a previous blog.  She wrote to me after seeing the QB Monthly article, and we have since formed an amazing friendship.  I am so glad to have made a positive impact on her life and it is really humbling to be referred to as a role model by her.

What's something I got through that was really tough?

My health scare.  That week long wait before I had my blood tests and MRI to see whether or not the suspected tumour in my liver was malignant was the scariest week of my life.  I signed my contract for my new role in that week and resigned my then current position, which just added to the rollar-coaster of emotions.  I am thankful for all of the supportive people I had at work, who helped me through that time.

While it was confirmed that there is a 7cm tumour in my liver, I am so thankful that it is not malignant.  Just thinking about that week now is making my head spin.  I will always be grateful for Jess' call the moment I got out of the specialist appointment with the good news (no cancer!).  Best cab ride call of my life!

What character trait did I develop most this year?

This question made me realise I missed someone off my list from above (didn't I say I would forget someone!).  That person being Janine Garner, owner of LBD Group.  Each year Janine encourages members to choose their word for the year.  For me, 2014 was resilience.

It is quite ironic as I chose that word before the breakup, before finding out about my tumour and before I decided to change firms.  When reflecting on 2014, I believe I was successful in building resilience within myself.

What's next?

I am not someone who makes resolutions.  Instead I make a list of goals that I wanted to achieve, or things I want to do.  I hate the idea of an arbitrary day being required in order to make a difference in my life.  In 2014, I decided to practice what I preached and check in on myself every quarter to make sure I was achieving my goals.  I also had other little goals, such as going to a Ballet with my friend Emma (we went and saw the Nutcracker last weekend thanks to an incredible Special Counsel in my practice group at work), buying my first brand new car (which I did about a week ago and pick up on the 30th!) and joining a Committee.  Other goals had to be changed as I dealt with unsuspected situations, such as removing from my list learning Serbian.

I have not decided what goals I want for 2015.  That is on my to-do list (hmm a to-do list to do a to-do list).  Two things I have decided on - 1. I want to go overseas and am planning on tackling Yacht Week in Croatia with Laura and 2. that my word for 2015 is patience. 

Thank you to everyone who played a part in my 2014.  I only hope that 2015 is even bigger and better for all of us!  Remember to look forward to what it ahead. 

Upcoming #careergirls looking to protect future wealth

Yes, the times are beginning to change if recent reports from the UK are anything to go by.  What reports and what change? 

Well, to begin with, Victoria Beckham has been announced as the top Entrepreneur for UK and has now overtaken hubby, Becks, in the earning front #lovesit. 

The other story?  Not fashion related but still in line with career driven females, are the latest reports from lawyers in the UK who are reporting a surge in requests for pre-nups from females looking to protect their future assets.  I love this on so many fronts. 

 

Females initiating a change, females forecasting ahead and planning for the worst, but most of all, females recognising that they are going to have something (even) more of value in the future that will need protecting.  Gone are the days where a woman entered into a relationship knowing that she would have brought less to the table at the beginning, earn less throughout and end up with less in superannuation at the end (ok the latter may still be a problem overall given disaparity in equal pay).  But my point is, the new generation of women coming through, i.e. my generation, are seeing a paradigm shift in the earnings front (I was going to say power front - does earnings equal power?  Let's debate that next time!).

 

I personally encourage the use of pre-nups and cohab agreements (no I am not a family lawyer), because I think its important to protect what you bring, or could bring to the table.  I have a firm belief that when you marry, you marry for life, but as a lawyer and realist, one should always be prepared for the worst. 

 

I just hope with the generational change in up and coming power females looking to protect their (future) assets, is not met with discouragement from the wider community or their partners.  A girlfriend from University called me a few years ago wanting a recommendation to a family lawyer because she had just gotten engaged and was about to have her fiance move into the townhouse that she owned.  Her parents had a lot of money, she was involved in a number of trusts, and while her fiance was not without his own earnings, she wanted to protect what her and her family had built up over the years.  He was completely happy with entering into a pre-nup because he recognised the importance of showing that there was no issue with it on his behalf.  Unfortunately, I have not heard similiar stories (one of my guy friend's said entering one at the request of his girlfriend was (to him) a declaration that she earned more).

 

Love is grand, marriage is meant to be even more grand.  But remember you had a life before the marriage, and you will need a life if the marriage fails.  If the option is available, take steps to protect your assets!

Yes, I am a girl. Yes, I like sports!

I get emails and messages from young professionals around the world about different work situations and asking me now they should best deal with it.  One topic I get constantly is invitations to sporting events. 

The ladies I hear from are either invited to a sporting event as the "token" female or not invited as it is assumed they don't like sport.  Both cases are ignorant and outdated and I have been in both.  Admittingly, the best of the bad situations would be the token female invitation and then being able to hold a conversation about what is happening in said game (just don't be that overly excited female throwing beers at the poor bloke in front of you because he barracks for the other side).

But what do you do if you are not invited because (shock) you're female, and what do you do when you are told the reason why is because they "didn't think you would enjoy the game"? 

The best way to deal with it is to directly address the issue. Say something. However, if you are anything like me, in times of potential confrontation the conversation never comes out as I actually planned it in my head! 

Thankfully talking about attendance at sporting events isn't confrontational (well I hope not). Simply acknowledge what was said, but reference the sport/match/game and how you would liked to come along next time.  Might sound bold, but it works. 

It is also good to make your sporting interests known in the office. I am not talking about pinning Qld Reds flags to your desk and substituting your suit jacket for a Broncos hoodie, I am talking about making conversation with your male colleagues about the games from the weekend. Trust me - it works!!  A lot of companies also have office sports teams which are all mixed.  Joining up for the touch footy or soccer team is another great way to show your interest.

I love my sports and I really enjoying entertaining (or being entertained) at sporting events!  Just because your female doesn't mean you are completely inept with any type of sporting prowess.  A few years ago, I was sent tickets to the Ashes from a male Managing Director because he ended up being wrong on a footy rule that we were debating the weekend before at a Broncos match.  Best thing is I now have a great working relationship with this MD and he even started hosting female only sporting events - organises and pays for a box at the union/afl/cricket, gift bags for everyone going, cabs to and from the stadium and full hospitality at the game.  We need more MDs like this!

My lasting comment to you - don't just sit there and take it, but don't go to the extreme.  Deal with the situation as it comes and take proactive steps to prevent it from happening again.  In an ideal world (which will never happen), there would be no issue with female workers being asked, or attending, company marketing events that are sports related.  Until we get such ideal world, don't throw a private tantrum - DO something about changing it.

Take some "me time" - avoid a burnout (and go to a day spa)

Anyone who has ever suffered a burnout, never wants to experience it again.  It is not a good feeling and once you have been there, trust me - you will be taking steps to make sure it does not happen again!

A burnout affects people differently and for me it usually results in a "meltdown" of some sorts. I'm not talking a tantrum or the like, I am more like a balloon that has reached maximum size and is just tethering on the stages of popping.  It just takes one little "prick", and I am popped (and it is usually in response to something so little and "un-pop worthy", but I am just that on edge, it has put me over). Thankfully, over the years I have realised what I need to do in order to avoid the burnout phase.  Even with the best intentions though, I can come close to a burnout.  I don't want that for me and I don't want that for you.  As they say - every time a rubber band is stretched, while it does "bounce back", it never bounces back to the same shape it was previously.   Don't let your burnouts take you to a place you can't come back from.

Finding what works for you 

The best mechanisms for avoiding a burnout will be different for every one. 

My best good girlfriend Jessica Turner has her own blog on health and lifestyle and kindly shared her views on the importance of looking after yourself. 

I've learnt to make nurturing myself a priority. I know if I take the time to do the things which give me a sense of wellbeing and create space in my life.. I'm better at work, in my relationships and I'm just plain happier!

When I forget or ignore what my mind and body needs, I'm not the best version of myself.

Its not about being indulgent or lazy, self care is giving yourself the love and respect you deserve and truly need to for a healthy body and mind. 

My favourite ways to nurture myself are yoga, meditation, getting a facial or massage, taking a long bath and taking myself out for a beautiful nourishing breakfast at my favourite cafe. These simple expressions of self love keep me smiling.

Luckily, Jessica and I have similar mechanisms in place for avoiding a burnout.  For me, it's not just about going for the gym and doing coffee, it's about scheduling time where I have no choice but to unplug.  I love getting a massage but have never been big on getting a facial (I thought they sounded pretentious).  However, as I edge towards 30 (under two months to go!), I have been looking at ways to kill two birds with one stone - preventing the ageing process and unplugging at the same time. 

My increased work with WLAQ has decreased my available "me time", but if I want to offer myself fully to advancing women in the legal profession and also in my work, I need to be on my A-Game.  I realised recently that I needed to schedule in "me time" to unplug (and avoid a burnout) and decided to do something different (Jess' influence) and put a call out on Twitter for some day spa recommendations.  Noel and his team at Aquarius Health & MediSpa replied and organised for me to come in for a facial and use their day spa facilities.  When I walked in I thought of Louis Litt and his mud spa scene with Mike where he stands up (naked) and says "I cannot mix work with mudding", so iPhone was switched off the moment I walked in!

I had the best time at Aquarius!  I didn't realise there were so many things you can get done at the day spa (Aquarius also has Cosmetic Image Clinics for those who want to take a different route for relaxation).  I told the beauty therapist that I was not really big on facials, and her response reinforced a message I remember reading in one of Dr Lois Frankel's books - your appearance is your brand and you are judged on your appearance before you even have a chance to speak and show your worth.  I realised that if I felt like crap, all tired and sluggy, I probably looked that way too! 

While I wish I could say I spent a few hours using these facilities, I must admit to feeling a little guilty for not "doing anything", and only spent about 45mins taking advantage of the quiet (and no iPhone!).  I honestly felt so good after I walked out. My only mistake was not arranging a massage (ok ok, I have booked in for another treatment in a few weeks time and I actually don't feel guilty about it!)

Life is a marathon 

Burnouts are not a pretty thing.  As Kelly Cutrone said, young girls need to realise life is a marathon not a sprint.  No one can fully prepare you for the transition from University to a full time career, but we can give you tips and guide you.  Learn from those who have been-there-done-that.  I want all you young professional women to realise is that you need to make a habit to schedule "me time" where you can 100% unplug.  Take time to pamper yourself.  Relax, unplug and go and get a treatment - look after your health!  

Find what works for you - but do not feel guilty for spending time on yourself.  Mental wellbeing is just as important as your physical.  

Go and check your diary and schedule some "me time". 

 

Cas 

Thank you to Aquarius Health & MediSpa for giving me the royal treatment.  The staff did not know that Noel had organised the day for me, or that I would be writing this blog, which is what really impressed me about their service!  To them, I was just another customer.  I can't wait to go again.

 

 

Changes to gender diversity will come through Generation Y

Friday, 7 March 2014 was one of the greatest days of my professional career.  Why?  Because I had the honour of being one of the 6 debaters at the Australian Institute of Management's International Women's Day Debate. 

The event has been around for years and the names of the debaters are under embargo until all of the delegates arrive for the event.  The only people who knew I was doing it were BB and my employer.  It certainly added to the thrill knowing that many of my colleagues would be attending, but also started to get my nerves racking!

I have written a blog about the day and what our arguments focused on.  I was third speaker, negative team.  To say there was pressure (brought on by my own sense of competitiveness) to bring it home, make it witty yet insight and leave a last message, was an understatement.

The words I wanted to resonate with the 1500 plus people in the room was this - change will come through Generation Y (or millennial for you Americans reading).  The men of my generation are not familiar with unconscious bias.  It is "normal" for us to have female breadwinners and mums who went to work and didn't stay at home.  Sheryl Sandberg is case in point.  Her boss (Mark Zuckerberg in case you had a brain freeze), is Generation Y.  His mum worked, he gets that women can be a kick ass mother, top employee and still meet all wifey duties. 

My part of the debate is now online.  Yes, it goes for 10 minutes, but the ending is worth it - without it I would not have had my caricature in City Beat!

Making the right choice

We had our firm legal dinner on Friday night and I had an absolutely amazing time. What made it even better was a Special Counsel from my team, was asked to give the toast to the firm. Her address was amazing and also got me thinking about some recent calls I have had from some young professionals who are thinking about changing workplaces.

During the toast, our Special Counsel spoke about being in a relationship with the firm, a marriage that you both work on and develop. I agree 100%. I only recently joined my current firm, but before I made the move I did my research as I wanted my next move to be long term and I wanted a firm I could "marry". I said this in my interview - I told them I didn't want to be moving firms again in my career and the only reason I would leave was to go to the Bar.  I asked questions about the group and the firm. I probably asked too many questions, but hey you spend at least 10 hours at work each day, so it's important that you know what the environment is like. 

For me, it's about working in an environment where there is support, opportunities for growth and development and having a great fit with the work and the people. When grad lawyers come see me about "locking in" (choosing a permanent group after rotation), I tell them they need to think firstly about the work they enjoy doing and secondly the team members. You need to love what you do, but your choice of group (or workplace) should not be solely based on who works there. You never know who will move on. 

I also get emails asking for guidance on moving jobs. When moving workplaces, you my view is that you should not focus solely on the money. I'm not undermining the importance of money (we all need to live), but if you are leaving purely because of the money, talk about it with someone else first to make sure you are making the right move.

At the opposite end, is an offer with a lower than expected package. I spoke at a College if Law seminar recently on performance reviews and Rebecca Kroon spoke on employment contracts and the employment relationship. I picked up a great tip from her which I am going to pass on to you all - if your package offer is not as high as you want but you can't negotiate higher, for whatever reason, at that time of offer, then ask for a formal package review at 6 months and have it as a term of your contract. Generally probation period reviews are held at the 6 month mark, so it can tie in well.

Overall, when making a choice about moving, or locking in, think long term and talk to others for input. This is a decision you should be workshopping, and dare I say it - make a list, and compare that list with your short and long term goals. 

I hope your workplace marriage is as wonderful as mine!

Giving back

We all have the ability to give back in one way or another. Giving back does not only include donating time or money to charity. It involves so much more.

I recently interviewed Dr Lois Frankel for Gloss Magazine and the one quote that stuck with me was "when a woman entrepreneur is successful it's her responsibility to take an other woman with her". Now I am not an entrepreneur, but I think this statement applies too professional women as well. I remember when I met up with Dr Frankel in August 2013, it was just prior to my Australian Young Lawyers Conference speech and I told her how I was grappling with what to say. Do I tell these young lawyers all my "secrets" about using social media for work purposes/referrals or do I tell them enough to get started. Dr Frankel said I should share all of my knowledge with them, and they can use that information how they want (i.e. If they are motivated enough they will do something). I reflected on this after our meeting and thought you know what, she is right. I have the ability to help others grow in their careers, so why not help them 100%!

I frequently receive emails from young lawyers around the world asking for advice on how to deal with various situations in the workplace. It ranges from what to wear to Court, to the more serious workplace bullying and stigmas relating to mental illness (just don't ask me for dating advice - not my strength haha!). It takes 5 minutes of my day to respond, but could make such an impact on their life and career. Why wouldn't I give back?

Many workplaces have buddying/mentoring programs. If you have the opportunity, I would encourage you to take part. Help those younger professionals as they build the foundation to their careers. It's about empowering others, not using them as stepping stones. 

Another way you can give back, is to align yourself with a not-for-profit association or charity. I was previously Secretary of Sunshine Coast Girls Boardriders and found so much personal satisfaction in being able to put my organisational skills to use with my love of surfing. Yes, it could be time consuming, but the costs benefits analysis saw the gratitude if these young girls far outweigh the 6am start time of a Sunday. 

This morning I was invited to speak at the Beenleigh Yatala Chamber of Commerce on my background and involvement in charity and volunteer work. It was a 645am start and I live on the northside of Brisbane so was a bit of a drive. But do you know what? The engagement of those 80 odd high school students and the eagerness in their eyes makes it all worth it. I hope I've made a difference to them. 

Tonight I was also fortunate to be voted in as Secretary of the Women Lawyer's Assocation of Queensland. I cannot wait to work with Kelly as the new President and the rest of the executive in bridging the gender diversity gap. 

I encourage you all to give back. Helping others is worth every minute. 

The art of giving thanks

I am old fashioned in many ways and yes, I am gen-y but I still believe in the importance of sending a thank you note (not an email) or small gift after certain events.

Why?  Because good deeds should not go unnoticed.  Now some of you may find this hard to believe, but I have real difficulty in receiving thanks and appreciation, as are many.  I am one of those who just squirms when someone compliments me and I give a thank you and a meek smile, when really I just want them to stop. 

So when it comes time to giving thanks, I want the other person to know that I had a great time and appreciated the event/their help etc.  I will always verbalise my thanks, but there are some situations where that is not enough.

I have monogrammed cards (not personalised - just a simple "C" on the front), which I use for my thank you notes.  I love sending them - I mean who doesn't love receiving a letter in the mail these days.  Examples of when I have sent a thank you card include after my (now ex) boyfriend's parents hosted me at their house for a dinner so that I could meet them for the first time, after this lovely high school student welcomed me as her guest at morning tea one day and when a fellow career girl asked me be involved in her fashion show at a charity event. 

Depending on the situation, I might also send a gift.  Some of my favourites are Chocograms, La'Quar boxes or personalised candles.  Flowers never go out of style and after spending an afternoon at a girlfriends house pouring my heart out about my recent health scare, I sent her a bunch of flowers just to show her how much it meant to me.

I love receiving thank you notes and if I can give someone the same feeling, that just makes me smile!  My La'Quar box from Laura Chong (who featured in my City Beat article), still sits proudly in my office.  Whenever I happen to look at it, I grin from ear to ear knowing that I have such a wonderful person in my life.  Similiarly, I was recently sent the most gorgeous (and massive) bunch of lillies from someone I referred business to.  I was not expecting anything, let alone these lillies which lasted over 2 weeks and made my office smell devine. 

I simply just LOVE the act of giving thanks.  I think the importance of giving thanks has been lost in our fast-paced instantaneous world of social media and technology.

For my young career girls, here are a list of events that you should send a thank you note for:

• When clients take you for lunch, dinner or a sporting match.  The first time you are invited, you should always send a thank you note.  For every occasion after that, you can move to a thank you email, but always say thank you.
• If you are invited as a plus one to an event.  Sending a thank you note to the person who took you as their plus one is a great way to continue on building that relationship.  In the thank you note always include a key takeaway from the event.
• If you are invited to speak at an event.  Speakers often appear on an unpaid basis and receive a token of appreciation be it wine, chocolates or a personalised gift from the hosting organisation.  However, if you have been asked to join a panel or speak at a seminar, you should send a thank you note to the organiser as they have helped you with building your profile and connecting you with people you may not have otherwise met. 
• If someone refers a new client to you.  Depending on the takeaway from the new client,  you should also think about including a gift. 

Never forget the importance of giving thanks.  If not anything else, it helps you keep your handwriting in check and will put a smile on the face of another.

Is FOMO to blame for the sensationalisation of busy?

By now you have probably heard about FOMO (the fear of missing out) and how a driving force behind this is social media, smartphones and the culture of needing it have it now. I've been guilty of FOMO and without Facebook, I do miss out and I'm learning to accept that "fear".  I hear through second hand messages about engagements, pregnancies, even deaths, and I have missed out on social events like surprise birthdays because invites have only been communicated through Facebook. But after relinquishing my FOMO, I have also realised that those I do hear from are genuine friends and life is about making the most of what you have. 

Putting aside my FOMO issues, I also want to raise another thing I have been guilty of - sensationalising busy. When a friend calls or texts and asks how I have been, I am guilty of saying "so busy, I've been up since 4.30am, I went to the gym, had breakfast with a colleague before work, back to backs all day and now I'm racing to a networking event". Sure that was true and I do have a busy schedule, but what I wasn't realising at the time was that I was saying all of this because I thought busy equalled success. It doesn't!!  You may think by saying you are busy, people will think you are in demand or wanted and then want you too. I don't think it works that way and after a recent experience (read on), it may have the opposite effect! 

My friend wanted to know how I was. Not what I had been doing. I was actually going really great, but I didn't tell her that, instead I gave her a debrief like she was my Chief of Staff.  

A consequence of my sensationalisation came up on the weekend. I was messaging one of my best  friends as I know she is moving house soon. She has a baby under 1 year old and a fly-in-fly-out boyfriend so I asked her if she needed help packing, cleaning and moving. Her response - "I know you're busy ... I'm not going to load you up with my crap". OUCH. For one of my best friends to think she couldn't rely on me for a few hours on a weekend hurt. But I brought it on myself - I sensationalised busy one too many times. I'm the "fixer" among my friends, I'm the one they call when they need to solve a problem, I'm the one who offers solutions. I love that I can help them and I am determined to make sure I remain available to them. So here is my public apology BFF and other friends and here is my commitment to stop sensationalising busy ever again!

I cannot help but think our FOMO and our desire to share with the world what we are doing (and rightly so, our successes), has led to a culture of unnecessary busyness. This isn't healthy and I've written previously on work life balance and why I believe it is so important. I have experienced first hand the repercussions of a burnout, but it's not an experience you need to go through to learn NOT to reach that point. It is ok to have time to yourself, unwind and unplug. There is a difference between laziness and recovery. 

Now that I'm recently single, another consequence of any future sensationalisation of busyness - barrenness (but that's another blog in itself!!). 

So, next time someone asks how you've been - I want you to answer with an emotion. Happy, sad, excited, tired. Anything but busy!!

Dr Frankel just wants to see you BE BRAVE!

I recently interviewed Dr Lois Frankel for the May issue of Gloss, the premiere online magazine of LBDGroup.  It is such an amazing experience to get to speak to those who inspire you in your career! 

Date: May 2014

Source: 

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Should you accept the opportunity to travel away for work?

I have had a few conversations over the past months with young professionals who have been asked to travel away for work, eg a project interstate and even overseas! Their first reaction - what a fantastic career opportunity, I am so glad my work has been recognised. Their second reaction - what about my boyfriend/partner/husband? 

I have never been in this situation, but after these conversations I want to give you the following to think about. Nb these views don't address any contractual employment obligations you may have to consider. 

1. Talk it over with your partner. But don't make a decision based on any negative response you may receive. This is your life and your career! 

Overall, your partner should be happy for you - it is great to be recognised as your boss wouldn't choose just anyone to work on an external project, would they!

2. Talk about it with your boss. Ask questions - how long is the project? Is there a chance it could be extended? Will they pay for return flights for the weekend? What expenses will they cover? Can your partner visit? 

It's important to have clear expectations from both sides and it also shows initiative on your behalf. You will be investing a lot of your own time if you choose to accept so it's good to know what is expected of you. 

3. Consider what impact it will have on your job, and also your career, if you say no. This is the big one and the person likely to know the answer is your boss. Unfortunately, it could be hard to raise this without your boss thinking you are rejecting the offer. The best way to approach the topic is when you are having the above conversation about expectations. I was asked (at a prior position) to have my name put forward for a secondment and in that conversation I asked, "will it affect my career plan and chance for a promotion if I'm not in the office?". My Partner responded saying no, if anything it would increase my chance! 

Ultimately, the decision needs to be made by you.  But I know your relationship will also have an influence on your decision and it's so easy, especially at the start of a new relationship to want to devote every waking moment to your new beau (personally, this is my favourite part of a relationship!).  

There is no right or wrong answer to accepting the opportunity to travel away for a project.  Just remember that you should not feel guilted into the decision you ultimately make by your partner. Remember you have obligations to your job as well. 

Think long term when making the decision. If you have a mentor, speak to them. It's times like these that you will wish you had one, or even a business coach. It's great to have an impartial view from someone who has experience in dealing with these types of matters. I know of a few coaches including Fiona Craig (who was a lawyer in her previous life). If you need recommendations on coaches, please email me (see side panel for contact details). 

Good luck with your opportunity and make the right decision for you! 

Don't leave before you have left

For anyone who saw my debate at the AIM International Women's Day debate back in March, you will already know my thoughts on Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In.  While I think her book has been fantastic in terms of raising much needed awareness surrounding the issues of women in business and gender equality, however in terms of content, personally I did not take much from the book. Except this - Don't leave before you leave. This chapter was moreso focused on women making decisions now in anticipation of what could happen in the future, eg not taking a promotion now because in 3 years you may want to have maternity leave. However, the name of the chapter suggests to me this concept is can be expanded to be used after you have resigned and while working out your notice period - don't (mentally) leave before you have left. 

I recently resigned my job and finished up in employment and workplace relations law to return to my love of insurance and personal injury litigation. At the time of resigning, I was still managing my health issues, but I made it clear to my Partner when I resigned that I was not leaving before I actually left.  The idea behind this is not burning your bridges and still producing quality work until your last day. 

During your notice period don't start taking extended lunches, don't lapse on timing of work and continue to follow up instructions from clients. Leave plenty of time for a full handover and talk with your Partner to see how they want to conduct the handover. I recommend file notes for each matter with key dates and issues highlighted, including your thoughts on the matter. If necessary, arrange a meeting with your co-worker who will be taking over the matters and ensure your secretary assists with having filing up to date. 

No matter what your reasons are for leaving a position, you should never create bad blood while working out your notice period.  Remember, you never know where you will end up in the future and you will find its a small world. Have enough respect to your firm, your Partner, and to yourself, to continue to apply yourself 100% during your notice period. You won't regret it. 

Performance Reviews - the tips you won't find online

It's performance review aka PDR time. This is something no professional at any level should overlook, but it's even more crucial as a young lawyer when you are trying to climb that corporate ladder. 

The biggest mistake young professionals make is believing they are entitled to a payrise simply due to the effluxion of time. Ahhhh wrong!! You need to earn it and you need to show why you have earned it. Your Partner knows your are great in general, and PDR time is your chance to show them and HR why a payrise is justified. 

Here are my key tips to helping you nail your PDR. 

1. Take the time to complete the paperwork. Most firms give you timetable for PDRs, including links to the forms you are to complete (and when you will get they letter about any payrise!).  Do not do it the night before/morning of as you are bound to forget key information. 

2. Dig out your "Good Girl" (or boy) folder. A past Partner introduced me to this and it has been invaluable for not only PDR time, but also when tenders and proposals are being done. This is an email folder, and a hard copy binder, of all documents and emails reflecting your great work. It can be things from a client thanking you for getting a 2 day task to them overnight, or a note to yourself about a file you were instrumental in. 

3. Make sure you use attachments to support what you are saying. My first ever Partner told me before a trial, "if you are believed on your evidence, you will be successful". Evidence is key! When matters are opened, depending on the system, the referring lawyer and client introducing lawyer are referenced and reports can be run showing your stats. However, some programs can only record Senior Associates and above and your great efforts may not be recorded.  Therefore, I encourage you to keep a table with the following:  

a) new clients you have introduced to the firm;

b) new matters you have introduced to the firm - for new and existing clients; and

c) new instructions you have taken from new or existing clients that you have referred on to another workgroup. 

If you continually update this table throughout the financial year, it will help you complete your PDR forms quicker and in more detail. 

Other documents you should include are a summary of your average chargeables (yes, the Partner would have this, but you should have this information handy), key marketing and business development events/documents you have had input in, a list of articles you have had published (or contributed to for junior lawyers), seminars you have prepared or presented and any media regarding you/your matters. 

4. Know your worth. While mid and top tier firms continually benchmark salaries, you should also keep an eye on the market. Hays publish a great legal salary guide that you can request. If you feel as though you have contributed to the firm above someone at your level, use your attachments (see point 3) and the market guide to negotiate your salary. While it is a bold move to negotiate your salary, if you have the evidence and a good argument, (hopefully) you have nothing to loose. 

5. Plan ahead - where do you want to be in a year, 2 years and 5 years. Do not go into your PDR saying "I want to make Partner someday" when you are a first year. Yes this is a great goal, but be prepared to discuss short term goals. If you want to move to Associate or Senior Associate, set out a timeframe to discuss and have your Partner provide input to your career plan. 

If you want to start a Masters or other type of study and training, this is your chance to discuss the prospects of it working with your practice and if the Firm can fund it. 

6. Be prepared to discuss any issues you have. PDRs are a great time to discuss any diversification or specialisation you want within your workgroup. This is the time to ask if you could start working on professional indemnity files as well as public liability.  If you feel as though you are struggling with a certain area, ask what resources the Firm can offer to help you upskill. 

7. Ask your Partner what they believe your strengths and weaknesses are so you can grow and improve! Don't be offended by any weaknesses they highlight. Wouldn't you rather know what you can improve, as opposed to just letting it continue and it potentially impacting your career later? I would rather know. Knowledge is power!!

8. Don't lead with a negative. This is common with females who often say "I know we only just got that claim for X filed in time, but the instructions didn't come in until 10am". Instead use, "on X file, we received urgent instructions at 10am to file a claim that day.  I was able to rearrange other commitments and assist Special Counsel in drafting the claim so that it was approved by the client, filed and served that day by 3pm". See the difference - positivity without arrogance. Instead you have shown you can manage other clients expectations, manage your own commitments and work with the team to meet a tight timeframe. 

9. Use the time for the PDR meeting wisely. It is easy to get off track and start talking about your current matters, and while a ice-breaker is good, the focus needs to be on your career plan and getting through what you need to discuss. Similarly, if you think you will need longer for the meeting because there are extra details you want to discuss, eg putting in place next steps to get you on the Senior Associate path, have your secretary schedule more time. 

Remember to take pen and paper to the PDR so you can make notes on what you need to follow up. A PDR isn't finished at the end of the meeting, you need to be proactive and continue to action your career plan. Set yourself a bring up every 4-6 weeks throughout the year to review your career plan so you are not scrambling come April next year to get everything done. 

Good luck with your PDRs. It is a nerve racking time, but now is your chance to show why you should have a payrise and/or get a promotion. 

Cas

Networking: What do you want to be known for?

There are always plenty of networking events for young professionals and as your profile starts to grow, you will find more of these event invites will come direct from clients and other industry professionals.

I know first hand how exciting is to receive the invite personally, rather than through your Partner or Director, however I want you to learn from my "mistake". You don't need to accept every invite!  One of the senior members at my last firm, when discussing a double-booking I had, asked me an invaluable question "what do you want to be known for?".  

While I love networking and every event presents a new opportunity, I was getting overwhelmed with trying to keep up with the events. Wine tastings with accountants, trivia nights with young professionals, lunches with women associations. I was spreading myself too thin and I started to loose sight of where I should be concentrating my business development activities. But given I have been told I can be an "extremist", I did not want to end up at the other end of the spectrum - not marketing at all (remember the worst time to market is when you need to). 

Being a list person, I revisited my personal business development plan and decided to do the following:

1. Assess each event so I had a balance between social business development events ie the trivia nights and the Business Chick type lunches, from client potential business development events, ie the wine tastings with accountants and the industry luncheons.  

2. Limit myself to no more than 2-3 events, maximum 4 in peak seasons (end of financial year and Christmas), per month with one being a client potential event as these events should be prioritised over others. 

3. Above all, make work related events a priority. These are the ones were the Partner has been invited and I'm an extended invite, or Firm hosted events. 

4. Continue to follow up key introductions from events to maintain contact. 

After being asked what I wanted to be known for, I now read through invites in more detail, including having a look at key sponsors and promoters of events. I want to attend events that will help build my profile in the area of law I want to be known in. Looking at key sponsors can also help you assess who you could also invite to the event. 

I will forever be grateful for being asked what I wanted to be known for. It has helped provide me with an advantage in taking my business development to the next level. 

My parting tip for young professionals, while we have LinkedIn, still collect business cards and create your personal database. Maintain contact with these new connections by having a coffee every few months or send a case/article that may be relevant to their industry. I speak regularly on using social media to promote your profile and obtain clients, however I don't believe traditional forms of business development should be abandoned. 

I hope this post helps you and as always feel free to comment below or email me with any questions. 

One last thing - BE AUTHENTIC!!

Tips for graduates and young professionals

Today, I wanted to share with you a book that helped me when I was a graduate and staring out in my first professional job 7 years ago, and one that is helping me now as I move into the next phase of my career.  I have even shot a quick vlog (my first one!) and encourage you to share this with other graduates and young professionals.

When I started at my first law firm, I thought I knew it all.  It wasn't until a female partner and I were talking one day that I realised there were certain behaviours I could improve, as well as my dress and how I acted.

Luckily for me, I was introduced to Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office by Dr Lois Frankel.  Personally, I am not into self help books, or the latest buzz words that are around for career progression.  However, this book was different.  It was real, it was relevant and it wasn't telling me I had to "be a bitch" to get ahead, or start acting more like a man.

Some key tips (also in the vlog), I took away were:

• Dressing for the job I wanted.  I wanted (and still do) to be a Partner.  Dressing too casually in a corporate office wasn't going to get me there.
• Viewing senior male colleagues as a father figure - this is where I kept going into my school girl ways, fumbling about and not being confident in my approach to my work.
• Wearing appropriate make -up.  What is good for a Saturday night, is not good in a professional environment.  After reading the book, I sought assistance from a make-up artist to best learn how to apply make-up that was appropriate for work.
• Constantly apologising.  I would do this all the time when it was not necessary.  I would lead with "sorry" and I did not understand the impact this would have on the way others viewed me - especially my Partners.
• My behaviour around colleagues in the industry.  I am an outgoing and energetic person.  I am happy to chat to other colleagues when at Court and before mediations.  However, after a few odd coffee date requests from older males in the profession, I spoke to one of my Partners, and realised the way I interacted could be viewed as flirtatious, even moreso because I was young and female in a predominantly boys' world.  Coupled with my constant hair playing, my bubbly personality was being mistaken for something I did not intend at all.

Dr Frankel recently released a new edition of Nice Girls Still Don't Get the Corner Office.  I am at the next stage of my career and looking to move into a more senior role.  I have been reading the new edition to remind me of these unconscious mistakes I have been making, which could be sabotaging my career!

I encourage you all to purchase this book and share it with your friends.  It's all about paying it forward, and this book will help you more than any other in the market.  What I like best is how Dr Frankel also recommends books by other authors to read - you don't see that very often.  These books, like Dr Frankel's, are not over the top (again noting my distaste for self-help style books) and are helping me gain that competitive, yet friendly edge, over my colleagues.  My "Corner Office" is a promotion to Senior Associate and I can't wait to get it!

Quentin Bryce - the epitome of a lady

With Quentin Bryce soon ceasing her title as Australia's Govenor-General and the publicity in today's media, it reminded me of the time I met her and how awe-struck I was by her elegance.

It was during our Finals Week of the RSL Girl in a Million. For those of you not familiar with GIM, it was an opportunity for young females to raise much needed funds for war veterans and for the finalists, to participate in Finals Week which saw many meetings and adventures, all while being judged on our deportment, etiquette, life skills and interactions with the community. 

A highlight was tea with Ms Bryce, as the then Governor of Queensland. It was one of her last functions hosted at Government House in Paddington. As it was a formal event, we had to wear a hat (I chose felt as it was winter) and the girls and I were on our best behaviour to ensure when stirring our tea we didn't "clunk" the spoon on the teacup! 

Ms Bryce was an exceptional host and shared many stories. I loved how she was able to find a way to relate to each and everyone of us in a different way. For me, we spoke about politics and shoes - as you do! 

I see her as a fantastic role model and she made a positive impact on my life. Whenever I look at her, I see a picture of a lady. I think this is a lost art in the younger generations, including mine. Deportment and etiquette go a long way. 

For any young career girl, I recommend deportment and etiquette lessons. In Brisbane, June Daly Watkins offers informative courses on personal development. 

Remember - "your dresses should be tight enough to show you're a woman, but loose enough to show you're a lady" ~ Edith Head

What to wear - the perfect lawyer look

Gone are the days where female lawyers wear ugly brown suits (I admit - yes I have owned an ugly brown suit).  With the increase in designers and shift in acceptable work wear, we have an endless choice of what to actually wear in the office!

Appearance is everything.  But your pay packet may also determine what you can and can't wear.  As a previous Partner told me - you can tell the higher skirt brackets - better quality clothes.  I laughed when she said this, but as my pay has increased, so has my clothes budget and where I buy my clothes from!

I use Pinterest a lot for inspiration on what to wear to work.  I even have a board dedicated to all things lawyering.

I am loving the classic look at the moment (see pic above).

Here are a few tips to young career girls starting out.  Whether you are a paralegal, graduate or a first year, these tips will help you create a closet that is timeless, yet fashionable!

1. Splurge and buy that 1 great suit.  This suit should be reserved for Court days or important meetings.  I have never bought an off the rack suit that fitted me perfectly, but I have made friends with a great dressmaker in Brisbane (PQ Fashions) who alter all of my suits for me.  They even make suits, but I am yet to venture down that path.  I bought a gorgeous skirt suit from Portmans over 6 years ago, and I still wear it today.  It is a black, pencil skirt with a traditional collar jacket.  I get it dry cleaned to ensure it is well looked after.
2. Shoes - oh how I love shoes!  Have at least 2 pairs of heels to start off - black and nude/cream (try places like Famous Footwear and London Rebel to start off) and pay to have the tips replaced straight away.  I go to Mister Minit who replaces my tips if they come off in the 6 months since he put them on.  Wear flats to and from work - especially if you are walking from public transport - to look after your heels.  Don't wear casual wedges to work - unless its casual Friday.  Wedges have made a comeback in recent years (I don't wear them at all), but I have seen some really nice low wedges suitable for work. 
3. Staple items - black pants, skirt (a nice grey colour is great), singlets for under your blouses (black, white and nude), at least 1 good button down, long sleeve shirt and belts (they are always in with work wear).
4. If you are showing leg - wear a pantyhose.  It is basic deportment.  I wear a nude pantyhose every day that I am wearing a skirt or dress.  I feel "naked" without one.
5. Have a smart casual outfit for "casual Fridays".  Jeans with a cute top and sandals or ballet flats work best.  If I am heading out for Friday night drinks, I might bring a pair of heels to work, or wear a cute dress with cropped jacket.  Hit up Valley Girl and Temt as a starter.  Look around at all of their items and you will be surprised at what you will actually find.  I am addicted to Sheike at the moment and buy heaps of dresses from there that I wear on casual Fridays.
6. Don't be afraid to go to Big W and K-Mart and actually look around at their basic items.  You will find cheaper shoes, singlets (see point 2) and basic work tops that look fantastic and not cheap.  I once bought a dress from K-Mart for $46 as a second year and a Senior Associate asked me how I could afford Victoria Beckham.  I was like what are you talking about!?  She showed me some of VBs latest range, and turns out the dress I bought was similar to hers.  Score!
7. Accessorise properly.  Head down to Lovisa, Diva or (splurge) Mimco where you can get lovely earrings. Fake pearls, cubics and pretty studs are a plenty.  One day I will be able to buy all of the real diamonds and pearls I want (wishful thinking!). 
8. Handbag time!  When I was at Uni, Oroton was making its mark in the corporate world.  All I wanted was an Oroton bag and purse.  I remember when I bought my first Oroton and was oh so excited.  But there was no way during my early years that I could I could fork out $600 for an Oroton bag as a first year, and I didn't have a boyfriend at the time who gave me an Oroton purse for Christmas (But I was lucky this Christmas!). I looked around at places like Strandbags for designers like Condura.  These days there are heaps of bag places, like Colette, which have great work bags under $50.  Again, keep the colours neutral - black, nude/cream.  I love teaming my black bag with a funky silk scarf for that added bounce!
9. Make-up completes the package.  What is acceptable on a Saturday night in the Valley is not acceptable at work on a Monday morning.  Invest in make-up brushes (start out at Cosmetics Plus) to give you that polished look.  Basic make-up items include foundation, light blush, mascara and a nude gloss/lipstick.  By all means wear eye shadow and liner - I do most days.  If I know I haven't got any meetings on, I try and have an "eye break" - no eye shadow or liner - I love the "natural" makeup look and just touch up my gloss a bit more.

Remember, these tips are to start you off.  The most important thing is to make sure you look respectable and presentable.  As a blonde, female, young(ish) lawyer, I need to make sure I dress right so I am not judged.  I plan my outfit the night before depending on my calendar and usually because I am packing it in my gym bag.  Saves so much time the next morning and I'm not waking up the house by ironing early!

I hope you have a fantastic 2014 and I look forward to helping you with your careers and development.

Uni and Work. Is it the same thing? Part 1 of tips for your transition

You've finished uni and you're about to start as a Graduate/Trainee Solicitor. Think it's the same thing? Late nights, lots of reading and trying to impress your superiors while (secretly) trying to outdo your fellow junior colleagues. Wrong.

Working life is completely differently. Yes you still need the same drive and ambition, but your first lesson will be learning the environment and atmosphere.  It's like Dr Lois Frankel says - you need to learn the office politics in order to get ahead. 

Just don't watch Suits the night before your first day. You are not Mike Ross, you're the Harold. You won't have a Rachael and the Jessica won't know your name. Your supervising Partner will be a Harvey, but you won't be getting home visits or spoon fed on cases. 

Here's a few of my tips (this was about 3 times as long but I've cut it back - will do a part 2 soon!) on what I have learned through the past 6 years. 

1. Identify opportunities

Your job is to make sure the Senior Associates/Special Counsel/Partners have the correct information they need to give advice to the client. If you come up with two answers, or two paths, go to whoever gave you the task and say "I think we could go this way or this way, but it depends on this". Don't just give them both in a memo and leave it. Use your initiative. 

You nail the research, the Partner nails their advice. I will never forget the first "great work" on a memo I had given a Partner. I had worked hard on this research and it was good it was recognised. Just don't expect this constantly. Partners aren't there to blow smoke up your butt - but they will acknowledge hard work when it's earned. 

2. Ask Questions - but don't suck up

Personally I love questions. The best is "why are you doing it that way". If you've helped me with a task and the advice/documents have gone, follow it up. Ask for a copy or 5 mins to discuss why that path was chosen. This is how you learn. 

But don't ask questions if you know the answer, or you just want to show off. Partners don't have time for that. I was instructing at my first criminal trial and the Barrister I was instructing said to me "I don't ask a witness a question unless I know the answer and don't ask me a question if you can't anticipate my answer". Best piece of advice ever. 

3. That's not my job, ahh well it is

You're a Grad. Everything is your job. Look at the positives a) you're being asked and b) think about what you will learn. 

Every task has a purpose. Photocopying a brief isn't just numbering pages. It's your opportunity to see how a litigation runs. Use it to your advantage and familiarise yourself with the documents and why they are in there. 

You cant keep your "I'm a law student" attitude. That will need to change quick smart. Being a graduate is similar to going from Grade 7 to Grade 8. One minute you're at the top, next you're at the bottom. Deal with it and get back to the top again. 

4. Don't stay long hours if you don't have work to do

There are so many opinions on this. Some stay stay longer than everyone else, others say only stay if you're needed. 

 

I say there is a middle ground. If you're meant to be there 8.30am to 5pm, be prepared to be there 8am to 530pm. Let your supervisors know if have capacity and pop your head in before you leave. Work in with your partner, if they are early risers, maybe try getting in early if you need to see them. Just remember work life balance (see past post). 

Your biggest asset will be your ability to judge your workload. There's a difference between staying back and getting a task done so you can say its done and staying back due to an urgent timeframe. I could be in the office 24 hours a day if I didn't know the difference. Prioritise. Your work will never be done. There's always something waiting for you. 

5. Create a precedent list

 

This will be your greatest asset. Mine has a contents page and is broken down into categories and sub-headings. Nerd I know. 

 

But case law is so important and as a Grad you will have first hand access which will help you for the rest of your career. 

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Moving forward (get used to that saying) - you will get there. You just need to prove yourself. My philosophy is work hard while you are a junior and prove your worth. Don't step on toes or over toes. Make sure your bring up list is checked daily and do a completely file review monthly. 

 

Don't think you're too good for any task. Don't backchat and don't get it wrong. Try your hardest. Being a lawyer is all about reputation. Your Graduate years will define you. 

 

To my fellow career girls, do yourself a favour and read Nice Girls Don't get the Corner Office by Dr Lois Frankel. It will help you with your behaviour and attitude and leads me to my next blog post - your professional voice vs your personal voice. Massive thanks to Katherine Feeney, Brisbane Times who gave me the idea for my next post.